Trina's Wedding

Attended Trina's Wedding at Fullerton Hotel. The Ballroom was super grand. And means there goes my ~^$$^~. Helped her out in her tea ceremony reception. Thomas, Aline and I reached her condo at around 10 am and we were supposed to decorate the room. With our creativity, it was really nicely done up. My favourite part of the room was the "bells".

That was all in the day. Then it was quite a mad rush, clearing up the place. And then Thomas sending Aline and I home. Then I changed and left the house again. Walked to Tampines Central to get stockings for my dress! Before I knew it, it started pouring heavily. I waited for nearly half hour for the rain to stop. I was all wet, cos' of the strong wind too. At that moment, how I wished I had brought along an umbrella.

Ok... finally got my stockings as well as a shiny silvery eye shadow from Ettusias. Hehe. Then Thomas came to fetch us again. Yeah... to Fullerton we go! We were quite early and took lotsa photographs. Trina didn't come out till the first march-in. She was so pretty! And Fullerton's Ballroom was really really GRAND!

The food was good. We didn't have to take the food. Food was served to us on individual plates. It was so much fun teasing Thomas throughout the dinner. Of course, there were some wierd comments given by some colleagues, which I chose to ignore. Took more photos and then Thomas sent us home again. HEHE!

Have a BLISSFUL marriage, Princess Trina and Louis!

Finding a Husband

Article by Candice Z. Watters

Some single women hang out with a "buddy," never requiring him to state his intentions. Others have pre-marital sex and don't understand why their "partner" has no momentum toward marriage. Most spend all their time with the same group, even though no one in that group is a possible marriage partner.

These habits are pretty good for preventing weekend loneliness. But the very things singles do to avoid being alone on Saturday nights may keep them alone for the rest of their lives.

Sadly, we're members of a generation which, on the whole, desires marriage, but doesn't know how to get there or believes there's no rush to make it happen.

It turns out there are things you can do to move a relationship forward. But you have to know what not to do first.

Resist the counterfeits
If you want a mate who respects you, you've got to respect yourself. That means setting high standards for your relationships. Are you the gal guys always come to for advice about other women? Do you spend all of your time with a guy who's not your boyfriend? If you've answered yes, you may need better boundaries to protect your heart and time. This will help you resist the temptation to spend your prime years and best self on counterfeits.

Retain sexual power
Unmet sexual longing is a powerful motivator for men and women alike. Many of our parents and grandparents, had short courtships thanks to this natural force. If you're having sex outside of marriage, you're diminishing your sexual power and your ability to find a good match. Men having their sexual needs met casually have fewer reasons to sign up for marriage.

Reassess your options
A lot of women have good friends who are men. They describe them by saying, "Oh, we're just friends; we've never thought of dating." Too often we overlook men in the "just friends" category because we're not "attracted" to them. Instead of asking who you're attracted to, start asking "Of my friends, who would be a good husband and father?" You might be surprised who you're attracted to!

Parents used to choose their daughters' husbands for them. You can be sure the last quality they considered was physical appearance. I'm not suggesting a return to those days — they had problems of their own — but we can borrow a principle from them: if a woman is paired with an upstanding man, love will have a chance to grow.

Check your expectations
A US report in 2002 detailed a trend among single men who have sex with their girlfriends but admit they'll never marry them because they're not "soul mates."

Most people want a mate who knows them at their deepest points and loves them fully. When asked to describe their soul mate, many singles imagine a person who "completes them" and who will love them exactly as they are and never ask them to change. But what happens when those two soul mates encounter the turbulence of marriage? These expectations cause them to doubt that they've found their "soul mate" after all.

Despite fantasies of marriage as an endless date, a lifelong partnership is actually about the day-to-day stuff of life: raising kids, paying bills, cleaning the house, etc. A lasting marriage requires commitment, no matter what. You have to go into it expecting highs and lows.

Ask the people you know for help
Until recently, marriage was, for most people, a primary purpose of life. Friends and relatives were willing partners in helping singles meet the eligible bachelors in their lives. If we only spend time with peers, the competition for available men will likely be fierce. But if we have friends in different life stages, it's probable they will know eligible men. And if these friends are believers in marriage they can be helpful allies.

Changing your way of relating to men may seem unnatural at first — and for some, not worth the effort. But if your goal is marriage, it makes sense to do what's in your power to achieve it. Don't misunderstand: there's no formula for making two people fall in love and commit their lives to one another. But you still have a part to play. And if you're doing things that lead you away from the altar, why not purposefully change direction?

Adapted from Finding a Husband by Candice Z. Watters

Copyright © 2003 Candice Z. Watters. All rights reserved. International copyright secured. This article was published on Boundless.org on February 23, 2006.

Preparations to Taiwan

Finally sat down last Saturday and settled all the itinerary for my Taiwan Trip (9th to 15th Dec). There are going to be 10 of us on the trip in free and easy mode, and doing up the itinerary is really quite a headache.

The air tickets are expensive! S$756 on China Airlines. So the accommodation must be more budget. ^^

Just 3 more weeks to the trip. I hope all of us will have fun there! I will blog about this Taiwan trip. The last Japan and Korea trips weren't blogged.

After coming back from Taiwan, I will head to KL for four days! Going to stay at my cousin's house and also meet YQ who will also be there! I just wanna get away from Singapore.

Forget the people, forget the troubles and come back afresh.

Feeling all excited already!!

Best Wishes to Mr T

I am very sad and know I will lose my good friend, Mr T, after what he told me over dinner just now. It further reasuured me that all men are all alike.

Life still has to carry on for me.

Kitty Lab

I went to Kitty Lab today! It cost $35 just to go in. And worse of all, you cannot take photographs with all the Sanrio characters inside!! Basically, when you enter, you are given this KTA:

Then you go in, and a young guy tried to tell you the introduction to Dr. Kitty and his boomed-up hairdo. I guess the response would be good if he wasn't in Singapore. Good try to him trying to give some anticipation to his audience.

So you're to carry this KTA to all the stations. Each station is a kiddy-simple game. If you win the game, you can choose the shoes, hair, expression, clothes, friends, favourite food and horoscope. If you lost the game, the trait given will be random.

The place inside EXPO is very small. You can easily complete the whole thing within 15 minutes. If you complete all the stations within 35 minutes, you will get a Kitty badge:

At the end, there is this souvenir shop. I thought they would bring in a vast variety of Sanrio items for Kitty fans. But they didn't! It was only their Kitty 35th Anniversary mechandise. I got a pair of chopsticks at $15. I was hoping for more Sanrio stuff!

Well, I thought the whole Kitty Lab could have been done much better for the Kitty fanatics.

Satisfaction

Even though the gifts were virtual, I'm glad they were from him. Even though I suspect it isn't him, the sight of seeing the name is satisfying enough.

After-post:
Indeed, after checking with him on MSN, it was from him.